Surreal, alternate universe

I'm living in a surreal,alternate universe, where the inmates are running the asylum.When I started going down the slippery sloped rabbit hole mistakenly called the juvenile "justice" system, I erroneously thought that the rule of law was to be obeyed and respected, because I'm law abiding; thus,an offender would experience what the stated consequences would be for breaking the law.Incarceration would inevitably follow.Not so! The euphemistic term "probation" became evident as a non-binding caveat and an exasperating disclaimer, nothing more.I would now tell a naive, uninitiated parent, like I was initially,not to bother to expect any meaningful results or judicious consequences for vile,incorrigible behavior, which only ranks as low level miscreant activity, if one is minor, therefore,not warranting serious follow through by the court. In the unlikely event that the minor is confined, the hapless parent is required to pay "room and board" for the "privilege". Moms and Dads- you're damned if you do, and damned if you don't. Child advocacy is extreme. mentally, physically, spiritually exorbitant items to consider: *Adoption is not always wonderful( RAD). The downside is not often discussed. *Children's mental health therapists do not admonish; they are touchy/feely, therefore,inadequate and ineffective. *Public schools are not meant for out-of-the-box children (square pegs in round holes); they pretend they are. *Juvenile justice is a misnomer."Many parents just need to try harder." Really ?